Truett came home from Shands Rehab on Tuesday and the adjustment having him home has been overwhelming, to say the least.
For four weeks Clay and I worked with the physical therapists and occupational therapists on how to transfer Truett from his wheelchair to the bed or to a chair or to a toilet. I had it down pat. I learned exactly how to do the transfers, and so did Clay. We agreed the day Truett came home, "We can do this."
But the last five days have been disastrous! And I'm not sure why. Truett has fallen to the floor three times. It could be his depression that has caused Truett not to remember what to do. It could be Truett is rushing to make the transfers.
Lord, have mercy. I am at my wits end because just this afternoon, the transfer from his recliner to his wheelchair ended up with him on the floor and me in tears. Now my confidence is totally shot.
Clay and I take turns sleeping on the couch in the living room while Truett sleeps. That, alone is stressful because my husband wakes up often with needs; therefore, Clay and I are not getting the quality sleep we need in order to be good caregivers during the day.
I know there are trained, qualified caregivers in our area and I am ready to hire that person. So if any of you know of a responsible qualified person, please refer them to this number: 386-497-4741 or 352-339-3601.
Our whole family has the fear of Truett falling.
Mrs. George,
As a full time primary caregiver to my Grandmother for the past 2 and a half years I totally understand how you feel. It is the HARDEST thing I have dealt with thus far in life. It has also been a blessing the time we have been able to spend together. She has Alzhiemers/dementia. She is totslly dependent. I have "transferred" her a million times. I can not tell you the times that we ended up on the floor...somehow I have always been able to manuver myself to break her fall. Although I have done it a million times though...we still have an accident from time to time. WE are only HUMAN after all. Granny lives with me, so between the children, and the house and numerous critters....there are days that I just don't even KNOW how I get through!!! However.... I could not imagine going through what you are with your husband. I can't imagine how you must feel. But I just wanted you to know that I'm quite sure that you COULDN"T do a BETTER job!!! Don't loose confidence!! And I also will keep an eye out for some help for you.
Also you are in thoughts and prayers...GOD BLESS you all...
Posted by: Deanna Kravec | March 13, 2011 at 08:13 PM
I know it has to be rough, but hang in there (easier said than done). Know also that we are still sending positive vibes and prayers for all of you! You are never far from our thoughts and always in our hearts.
Posted by: Nancy | March 15, 2011 at 12:40 PM