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March 17, 2013


Nancy Collins

You have every prayer I can send your way. I am deeply sorry for what you have gone through and think about you often. I admire your strength and courage.

Alice Martin

Merry, if anyone understand it's me. When my mother walked the streets of Gainesville at 2:30 in the morning we knew it was time for her to come and be with us. I "knew" that our love and lots of good food would make everything better. I was wrong. For almost a year we spent 24 hours a day, taking shifts as we cared for her. She cursed at us and would grab us to hit us. We had alarms on all the entrances in case she decided to leave in the middle of the night. I learned from you Merry, to keep a journal and I handed her doctor the daily life we lead. He decided for us it was time. I cried every time I left her and felt like the worse person on the face of the earth. No one can fully understand unless they have gone through this. I love you, my friend. My thoughts and prayers and love go with you today.

Karen Blanchard

I am so sorry to hear that you are having to deal with so much. I know that you have done everything you could and then some. Have peace in knowing that your decision is what is best for you, for your husband and for your family. He may not understand but with time he will adjust. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.


We are sorry that you have to go through this. We support you through daily prayer and will continue to pray for you and your family. I am sure you have made the best decision for what your needs were. So don't continue to beat yourself down. I am positive you were a wonderful caregiver and have shown remarkable strength. May God bless ya'll and think of you often.

Vicki Kuhlmann

This walk is so hard. My husband passed away of Frontal Temporal Dementia 2 years ago. Their brain is gone and still they function and do harm. I too had to place my husband in a facility because he was a danger to himself as well as to me. He too wanted to come home and I was always told by the director of the facility and his Dr. that if I took him home he no longer would know his home. I told him daily when he asked to go home that the car was broken and I had no way to take him home. He accepted that and was ok with it. You must above all consider your safety and their strength. For some reason they seem stronger than when they were healthy. If I can be of help please let me know.

D Brown

Don't feel guilty. One thing I have learned in caregiving class is that you cannot have a rational discussion with a person with dementia. He will draw you into it, but he can't participate in anything rational. You have my prayers.
D. Brown

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